Being Positive

I've been thinking a lot about being positive lately, particularly when it comes to parenting Jaxson. The last couple of months I've used phrases like, "stop whining" "when we're done playing you won't throw a tantrum right?" "Don't do that" "why are you acting like this?" I would tell myself every morning, "today I'm going to be patient" and then I'd try so hard to be patient, I'd say in the nicest way, "okay honey, 1 show and then we will turn it off." Then Jax actually had to turn it off he's start whining and Id say so softly, "I know bud! But let's not whine about this." And then he kept whining. I'd start counting and then even send him to time out. And then I was just frustrated. "I was so positive why did he throw a tantrum like this?" I would think. 

One night this week, I was cuddling with Jax like I do every night before he goes to bed. Instead of saying, "okay when I'm done you aren't going to whine" I said, "Oh Jax! Thank you for letting me cuddle with you tonight. When I'm done cuddling do you think you could say, "thanks mommy??"" He said okay and I laid there for 5 more minutes. To my surprise, when I got up, a soft little voice said, "Thank you mommy. I love you!" NO WHINING!!" It was a break through for us. 

The rest of the week I have been trying to be conscious about my words. When Jax starts whining I say, "where is my happy boy" "or thanks for waiting so patiently" or "you're so good to listen to me even though it's hard." It almost always kills the whine immediately. 

I'm still learning and trying to have the spirit with me so I can be conscious about my words, but I really think kids grow to who you think they are. If I peg Jax as a whiner, even unintentionally, that's what he'll be. If I focus on his positive attributes and disciple when absolutely necessary, he'll grow to who I believe he can become. Just some thoughts for me to remember ;)! 

LANDO: 

Finished his internal medicine rotation Friday and was able to go to the temple Friday night. He taught Sunday school and combined RS/EQ lessons today. He starts his neurology rotation Tuesday and neither of us are looking forward to it. It could be a really long month, but it's all about being positive right :)??

BECS

I started reading some breast feeding, birth books again! It is getting so real!! I had a blast hanging out with Landon all weekend. Free from any study and work!! Saturday night I went to the women's broadcast and I loved it all. Probably the line that hit me the most was the mom who lost her oldest son in an accident and was holding her new baby girl Joy. She said to President Eyring, "Her name is Joy! BECAUSE JOY ALWAYS COMES AFTER SORROW." 

JAX: 

He's the best. He got to play with a 5 week old Saturday and was over the moon. He will be the best brother. He got a 48 piece puzzle and loves it and can do it all by himself. It's so awesome. He has the best memory. He can sleep anywhere, he likes to have one arm hang down off the bed. He is really tender and sensitive. He tells anyone his life story if they make any acknowledgement of his exsistence. He sings primary songs all day. He doesn't have the best pronuciation, but he gets better and better. He is our BEST buddy and we adore him!! 

BABY BROTHER:

Almost 33 weeks!!! I have an ultra sound Monday to see if he is in the right position, they think his head may be in my ribs. I've tried lots of things to flip him. I actually think he is down facing now. We will see:). He is still nameless but he is so so loved!!! So excited to hold him!!! 

OTHER: 

We were so sad not to be to these two beautiful girls blessings in utah yesterday m!!!! But we think both parents are pretty amazing and we love both families dearly.  

My Brother's baby girl 

Landons sister's baby girl!!! 

Some Luck, Some Service, & Lots of BBall

It's easy to be soooo happy when you have such an awesome week. It's also easy to be sooo tired. Part of me wishes every week could be like this and the other part knows I may die if i kept this pace. But either way it was the best week. 

Overview:

Monday: Early Green Dinner! 

Tuesday: BYU vs Dayton game in Dayton Ohio (Thanks Hirschi's for watching Jax til 2:00am)

Wednesday: An amazing Relief Society Activty where we made dresses from wedding dresses for infants that passed away before they left the hospital. It was incredibly spirit filled and very humbling. 

Thursday: March Madness begins 

Friday: March Madness continues

Saturday: Jax and I watch every. Single. Game. Landon studied til 3:30. We filled up the font for a baptism and after that we continued watching bball all night long. 

Sunday: Well sunday is always a good day!!! 

LANDON:

Studied and took me to Dayton Ohio and tried really hard not to be distracted by the Madness. And sometimes failed mostly because I kept texting/yelling "Landon are you watching this??" Bad wife. Bad.

BECS:

I loved this week. So much! I feel asleep on the couch tonight at 6;00pm. See I can't do weeks like this every week. :). I finished up my personal progress besides  reading the Book of Mormon cover to cover. Since April will be a crazy month for us I decided to I would read it in a month. Landon and lots of it family are joining me too. I started tonight with a focus on How I can be the mother my Heavenly Parents & children need/want me to be. I'm excited.

JAX:

I love him. He is loving singing primary songs--thanks to our amazing primary. And he has a few almost memorized. He is reading to himself a lot. He is a joy and sometimes a handful and sometimes we expect too much of him and other times he's a little three year old. We love him.

BABY BROTHER:

Is measuring 3 weeks ahead of my due date now. Either he will be big or he's in a weird position. I imagine it's a little bit of both. He is a crazy mover. I'm still exercising 5 times a week and that's really helping my pain. 32 weeks friends!! 8 more to go:)! Hello eighth month of pregnancy. 

Life is good.